THE EMOTIONALLY ABSENT MOTHER
Author: Michele Gilbert
Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged
Narrator: Dora Gaunt
Length: 41 minutes
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self Help, Mental Health
Release Date: June 15, 2015
Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐
* I received a free copy of this audiobook from the narrator in exchange for an honest review.
DESCRIPTION FROM GOODREADS:
“Life for you hasn’t been easy.
You are currently in a relationship that is doing more harm than good,, and are working a job that you never seem to be able to execute perfectly. While others are enjoying life in all of its fullness, you feel like you are in a rat race that gets more competitive by the minute. “What is my problem,” you ask. “Why can’t I just sit back and enjoy life?” Blame it on your mother.
Your mom and her emotional absence has a lot to do with your current state in life.
Emotionally Absent Mothers will delve into your mother’s apathy, and why such lack of compassion may not be her fault. This book will also help you find ways to cope with the pain that you suffered as a child, as well as look past the scars to see a better future.”
My Opinions and Audiobook Review:
I am probably not the perfect person to review this audiobook since I do not believe in blaming your parents for all your problems as an adult.
** However, I do believe that there really are people out there who were severely emotionally neglected as a child. I agree that neglect in any form is a horrible thing for any child to have to endure and I do believe that it can lead to permanent psychological damage.
The author does a good job of describing actual scenarios and offering examples of what an emotionally absent mother is like.
My innate skepticism comes into play when people use this as an excuse for poor or destructive behavior.
I do not believe that everyone who claims to have had an emotionally absent parent actually had one. I think that there needs to be a pattern of neglect. One instance of your mother not praising you does not mean that your mother was emotionally absent.
To come up with a (for lack of a better description) diagnosis of “Emotionally Absent” I believe that the parent in question must have consistently shown a lack of empathy and emotion towards their child throughout their formative years. If this is what happened in that child’s life, I agree 100% that it would cause emotional and mental scarring that could easily affect that child long into adulthood.
The author does write some terrific ideas on how to help someone overcome any mental health issues that have arisen due to their childhood. She firmly places the onus on the previously neglected child to heal themselves. She is quite correct in stating that you cannot change someone else’s behavior, you can only change how you respond to that behavior.
I think the author should have included a chapter containing information on how to determine if your mother was really emotionally absent. It is easy to blame someone else for all your problems and it seems to be very popular to “just blame your parents” for everything. As I wrote above, I DO believe this is a serious and “real” issue, I just do not believe that everyone who claims to have had an emotionally absent parent actually had one.
There are some terrific strategies offered on this audiobook that have the potential to aid a great many people.
Because of the heaviness of the subject matter I was very glad to have the audiobook version. It made it seem less dry and narrator D. Gaunt does a wonderful job with difficult subject matter. She has a great sense of timing and her voice draws the listener into the subject matter. I rate the narration of this audiobook as 5 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
The audiobook itself I rate as 3 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐
I found this topic interesting and I am glad I listened to this audiobook. If it had contained more statistical information as well as more quotes and opinions from experts I might have rated it a bit higher. However, I do believe that this book will be helpful for those who legitimately suffer from this condition.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
(Information obtained from the author’s page on Goodreads)
Michele Gilbert was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. Drawn to literature and writing at a young age, she enrolled at Brooklyn College after graduation and majored in English. Michele did not begin writing immediately