THE NARCISSIST BORDERLINE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC
Author: J.B. Snow
Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged
Narrator: D. Gaunt
Length: 19 minutes
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self-Help, Psychology
Release Date: July 2, 2015
Publisher: J.B. Snow Publishing
Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐
* I received a free copy of this audiobook in exchange for an honest review.
BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder
NPD – Narcissist Personality Disorder
This audiobook delves into the phenomenon of “Borderline Personality Disordered women and the Narcissistic Personality Disordered men who date or marry them.”
What causes BPD?
“The female likely lived in an emotionally invalidating environment. She was born with a sensitive temperament and subsequently grew up in an environment where her parent was largely self-absorbed.”
If a child grows up feeling that their needs are not important, it can result in the child having BPD.
What causes NPD?
If a child grows up feeling that he is the center of his/her parent’s world and can do no wrong, and is put on a pedestal by his/her parents, this type of childhood trauma may result in NPD.
According to the author, she “…has first hand life experience in all of the topics that [she writes] about.” She says that “… unlike a mental health professional, [she has] lived and breathed many of the difficulties that [sufferers of these disorders] are going through now. [She has] largely overcome childhood traumas. Persevered and found the peaceful place that [she] is in today.” She has researched these topics for thirty years.
This audiobook is similar to another audiobook I listened to in the same genre. According to author J.B. Snow, every problem men and women have can be traced back to their childhood and how they were treated by their parents.
While I do believe that a traumatic childhood will obviously adversely affect a person’s life, I also believe that some people use their upbringing as an excuse for their own poor behavior when they did not have especially difficult childhoods. I guess I am a bit of a cynic. I think people need to “man up” and take responsibility for their own behavior.
However audiobooks like this one do offer some great advice on relationships. I just don’t think that advice is limited specifically to people with NPD and/or BPD. For example, the author states that when couples are dealing with their in-laws, they need to be on the same page and present a united front. This applies to every marriage.
The narrator, D. Gaunt does a terrific job with difficult subject matter.
This audiobook is extremely short (only nineteen minutes long) which I believe limits the amount of knowledge that is gained. Listeners do not get enough detailed information or enough tips on coping mechanisms for this audiobook to be truly effective. It is for that reason that I rate this audiobook as 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐