THE NARCISSIST BORDERLINE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC by J.B. Snow – AUDIOBOOK REVIEW

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THE NARCISSIST BORDERLINE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC

Author: J.B. Snow

Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged

Narrator: D. Gaunt

Length: 19 minutes

Genre: Non-Fiction, Self-Help, Psychology

Release Date: July 2, 2015

Publisher: J.B. Snow Publishing

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook in exchange for an honest review.

Definitions:

BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder

NPD – Narcissist Personality Disorder

This audiobook delves into the phenomenon of “Borderline Personality Disordered women and the Narcissistic Personality Disordered men who date or marry them.”

What causes BPD?

“The female likely lived in an emotionally invalidating environment. She was born with a sensitive temperament and subsequently grew up in an environment where her parent was largely self-absorbed.”

If a child grows up feeling that their needs are not important, it can result in the child having BPD.

What causes NPD?

If a child grows up feeling that he is the center of his/her parent’s world and can do no wrong, and is put on a pedestal by his/her parents, this type of childhood trauma may result in NPD.

According to the author, she “…has first hand life experience in all of the topics that [she writes] about.” She says that “… unlike a mental health professional, [she has] lived and breathed many of the difficulties that [sufferers of these disorders] are going through now. [She has] largely overcome childhood traumas. Persevered and found the peaceful place that [she] is in today.” She has researched these topics for thirty years.

This audiobook is similar to another audiobook I listened to in the same genre. According to author J.B. Snow, every problem men and women have can be traced back to their childhood and how they were treated by their parents.

While I do believe that a traumatic childhood will obviously adversely affect a person’s life, I also believe that some people use their upbringing as an excuse for their own poor behavior when they did not have especially difficult childhoods. I guess I am a bit of a cynic. I think people need to “man up” and take responsibility for their own behavior.

However audiobooks like this one do offer some great advice on relationships. I just don’t think that advice is limited specifically to people with NPD and/or BPD. For example, the author states that when couples are dealing with their in-laws, they need to be on the same page and present a united front. This applies to every marriage.

The narrator, D. Gaunt does a terrific job with difficult subject matter.

This audiobook is extremely short (only nineteen minutes long) which I believe limits the amount of knowledge that is gained. Listeners do not get enough detailed information or enough tips on coping mechanisms for this audiobook to be truly effective. It is for that reason that I rate this audiobook as 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

THE EMOTIONALLY ABSENT MOTHER by Michele Gilbert – AUDIOBOOK REVIEW

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THE EMOTIONALLY ABSENT MOTHER

Author: Michele Gilbert

Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged

Narrator: Dora Gaunt

Length: 41 minutes

Genre: Non-Fiction, Self Help, Mental Health

Release Date: June 15, 2015

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook from the narrator in exchange for an honest review.

DESCRIPTION FROM GOODREADS:

“Life for you hasn’t been easy.

You are currently in a relationship that is doing more harm than good,, and are working a job that you never seem to be able to execute perfectly. While others are enjoying life in all of its fullness, you feel like you are in a rat race that gets more competitive by the minute. “What is my problem,” you ask. “Why can’t I just sit back and enjoy life?” Blame it on your mother.

That’s right!
Your mom and her emotional absence has a lot to do with your current state in life.
Emotionally Absent Mothers will delve into your mother’s apathy, and why such lack of compassion may not be her fault. This book will also help you find ways to cope with the pain that you suffered as a child, as well as look past the scars to see a better future.”

My Opinions and Audiobook Review:

I am probably not the perfect person to review this audiobook since I do not believe in blaming your parents for all your problems as an adult.

** However, I do believe that there really are people out there who were severely emotionally neglected as a child. I agree that neglect in any form is a horrible thing for any child to have to endure and I do believe that it can lead to permanent psychological damage.

The author does a good job of describing actual scenarios and offering examples of what an emotionally absent mother is like.

My innate skepticism comes into play when people use this as an excuse for poor or destructive behavior.

I do not believe that everyone who claims to have had an emotionally absent parent actually had one. I think that there needs to be a pattern of neglect. One instance of your mother not praising you does not mean that your mother was emotionally absent.

To come up with a (for lack of a better description) diagnosis of “Emotionally Absent” I believe that the parent in question must have consistently shown a lack of empathy and emotion towards their child throughout their formative years. If this is what happened in that child’s life, I agree 100% that it would cause emotional and mental scarring that could easily affect that child long into adulthood.

The author does write some terrific ideas on how to help someone overcome any mental health issues that have arisen due to their childhood. She firmly places the onus on the previously neglected child to heal themselves. She is quite correct in stating that you cannot change someone else’s behavior, you can only change how you respond to that behavior.

I think the author should have included a chapter containing information on how to determine if your mother was really emotionally absent. It is easy to blame someone else for all your problems and it seems to be very popular to “just blame your parents” for everything. As I wrote above, I DO believe this is a serious and “real” issue, I just do not believe that everyone who claims to have had an emotionally absent parent actually had one.

There are some terrific strategies offered on this audiobook that have the potential to aid a great many people.

Because of the heaviness of the subject matter I was very glad to have the audiobook version. It made it seem less dry and narrator D. Gaunt does a wonderful job with difficult subject matter. She has a great sense of timing and her voice draws the listener into the subject matter. I rate the narration of this audiobook as 5 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

The audiobook itself I rate as 3 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐

I found this topic interesting and I am glad I listened to this audiobook. If it had contained more statistical information as well as more quotes and opinions from experts I might have rated it a bit higher. However, I do believe that this book will be helpful for those who legitimately suffer from this condition.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
(Information obtained from the author’s page on Goodreads)

Michele Gilbert was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. Drawn to literature and writing at a young age, she enrolled at Brooklyn College after graduation and majored in English. Michele did not begin writing immediately

PHANTOM LOVE by Rachel Pierre – AUDIOBOOK REVIEW

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PHANTOM LOVE

Author: Rachel Pierre

Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged

Narrator: D. Gaunt

Length: 3 hours, 8 minutes

Genre: Contemporary Romance

Release Date: June 25, 2015

Publisher: Rachel Pierre

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook in exchange for an honest review.

Abigail leads a quiet, predictable life. She spends most of her time either at church or on duty as a nurse at an inner city emergency room as a nurse.

Her boyfriend of two years recently broke up with her and she should be devastated, but instead she is relieved.

At her church she notices a new member. He is older than her and he is absolutely gorgeous. No one seems to know his name and Abby and her friends refer to him as “The Phantom”.

Abby is the shy one in her group of friends, but on a dare she introduces herself to Phantom.

Sparks fly and soon the two of them are dating. In fact, Phantom is good for Abby. He helps her start to realize that she is beautiful and that she deserves to be happy.

Phantom, however, remains an enigma to Abby. He seems happy but every once in a while Abby catches him with a devastatingly sad expression on his face. There is something in his past that still hurts him, but he won’t talk about it.

After many weeks of dating Abby starts to wonder where he goes and what he does. He disappears for days at a time and she has no idea what he is doing when he’s gone. In fact, she still doesn’t even know his real name.

Is there any chance for a long term future for Abby and Phantom?

This audiobook is only just over three hours in length which makes it a quick and easy listen. Despite it’s short length there is a lot going on.

Abby is a character that listeners will want to hug and slap in equal measures. Her lack of self esteem is frustrating but it is the fact that after being together for many weeks, Abby still does not know Phantom’s real name that makes the listener want to shake her and ask her what the heck she is thinking.

The scene that troubled me the most occurred when Phantom took Abby and a friend clothes shopping. At this point she still doesn’t know his real name or what he does for a living. However, Phantom hands a credit card to Abby and tells her to buy whatever she wants. After the shopping spree she still doesn’t know his name. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but don’t all credit cards have the name of the cardholder printed on the card? I have a hard time believing that she had his credit card in her hand and did not look at it to find out his name. And, I highly doubt the card said “The Phantom” on it.

I also found it frankly unbelievable that any woman would continue to date a guy for weeks and months without finding out his name. No one is that patient. Also, I find it extremely difficult to believe that any woman would put up with his constant disappearing acts and not knowing what he does for a living.

I know people will probably respond to my reasoning by saying that PHANTOM LOVE is a work of fiction. I know it is fiction, and that, by definition, it isn’t real. But I like books better when they come across as realistic (unless it is specifically from the fantasy or science fiction genre).

Narrator D. Gaunt does a good job of portraying emotion throughout the book. She also has a talent for pacing and inflection. I rate the narration as 5 out of 5 stars.

Overall I rate this audiobook as 3 out of 5 stars. This audiobook would be a good one to listen to o n the beach or on a plane ride.

SHIRLEY’S BOOK OF HORROR by Shirley McLain – AUDIOBOOK REVIEW

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SHIRLEY’S BOOK OF HORROR

Author: Shirley McLain

Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged

Narrator: D. Gaunt

Length: 1 hour, 21 minutes

Genre: Short Stories, Horror

Release Date: June 23, 2015

Publisher: Shirley’s Books

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook in exchange for an honest review.

This audiobook consists of five short psychological horror stories. The entire audiobook only takes an hour and a half to listen to, but even though it is short, I still enjoyed the stories.

Story #1 – WEBS – Mary and Dan rent a secluded cabin in the woods as their perfect honeymoon getaway. What happens on their honeymoon could never have been anticipated.

Story #2 – HOLESOME HOUSE – Mary Vance and her husband decide to move to a tiny town to start saving money. Her husband is a long-haul trucker but wants to open his own business to be able to spend more time with his wife and to start a family. The neighbors are very welcoming, but their idyllic new life becomes anything but.

Story #3 – THE FOG – Mandy and her friend go on vacation in London, England and run into someone they never thought they would meet.

Story #4 – CATS – This is supposedly a true story. Reminiscing on a childhood spent in carefree wilderness adventures in a time of horse drawn wagons. A neighbor named Mr. Hodge is sick and dying.

Story #5 – ECK, BILL and LACK-LACK – Bill is the King’s chief poison taster. Eck works in the refuse/offal pit. The pit is home to Lack-Lack whose appetite and knowledge are both legendary.

Narrator D. Gaunt does a terrific job of infusing each story with just the right amount of suspense. I rate the narration as 4.5 out of 5 stars.

The only disappointing thing about this audiobook was that I heard many errors that an experienced and/or thorough editor should have caught before the book went to press. These were not errors by the narrator, but were instead errors in the writing itself.

The most glaring errors were in the switching from past to present tense. This happened so many times in HOLESOME HOUSE that it started to irritate me and actually hampered my enjoyment of that story. I am reducing the number of stars for this audiobook by 1 star due to these editing errors. Therefore instead of a 4 star rating, I am rating this audiobook as 3 out of 5 stars.⭐⭐⭐

PSYCHIC PERCEPTION by Candy O’Donnell – AUDIOBOOK REVIEW

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PSYCHIC PERCEPTIONS

Author: Candy O’Donnell

Type of Book: Audiobook – Unabridged

Narrator: Lori Fairlla

Length: 4 hours, 54 minutes

Genre: Paranormal Fiction, Thriller

Release Date: May 11, 2015

Publisher: O’Donnell Publishing

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook through AudiobookBlast in exchange for an honest review.

Carrie Dowd is a psychic. She can look at a picture of a missing person and know if that person is alive or dead. Sounds great right?

Not so much! Carrie also experiences and feels everything that the person felt while being murdered.

As if that was not enough strain, she is also going through a nasty divorce.

When the mother of a missing teenage girl pleads for her help, Carrie is determined to try. But, will she be able to determine who killed her? Or will her messy personal life cause her psychic gift to go astray?

The storyline of this audiobook is excellent, however the dialogue was horrendous. Almost every time the characters spoke they didn’t sound real. They did not speak the way real people do. For example, when talking to her best friend she is extraordinarily formal. No one speaks that formally unless they are addressing the Queen of England. There was never use of “it’s” instead “it is” was always used. No one talks like that!

Despite the stilted dialogue the story was good. I was genuinely interested in the plot and there were a few surprises which I like.

The narrator did a terrific job on this audiobook. It must have been difficult to try to make the characters seem real when they talked so strangely.

If it were not for the dialogue, this book would have received a 4 star review from me. As it is now I rate it as 3 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐